The pain of one-sided love can be excruciating. You try to be at your best around them and you will do everything in your power to change their minds. But more often than not, you will be making matters worse for you. An non-reciprocated love is possibly the most terrible thing to get over because you have absolutely no idea whether you should just leave it alone or try harder to make them like you. It will end up consuming – mentally and emotionally.
According to relationship experts, being stuck in a place where you can’t get the person you love to love you back can be exhausting and people feel frustrated because of the situation. You tend to feel inadequate and that sense of inadequacy makes you angry and you seek revenge. But how is it possible to take revenge against a person you’re romantically interested in? That makes you even more helpless.
So what can you do?
First of all, start with the understanding rejection isn’t permanent. Like they say, when one door closes, a better one opens. You need to believe in yourself that a better and more exciting opportunity of finding love is just around the corner.
Secondly, don’t let the negativity of rejection consume the positive qualities in you. Many people tend to feel depressed because they can’t get that one person and they tend to push aside any and everything good in their life.
Focus on the more positive attributes in your life – your work, your passion, family and friends. Open up yourself to a new environment and take a trip somewhere to soak in a fresh energy and feel rejuvenated. Once you notice that you have the power to leave the sourness behind, only then you’ll realize how sweet life is.
The next thing you do is quit thinking about the ‘what ifs’? Every time you are around the person of your interest, you are bombarded with a bunch of ‘what ifs’ in your mind. What if you could have done something different? How will you grow from this painful experience? The human mind will bring up all sorts of negative thoughts, but it is your choice whether or not you pay attention to it. Instead of thinking if you’re ever going to get over this, spend time with things that make you happy.
If one person doesn’t think you’re worthy, it doesn’t reduce your true worth in any way. For one person who doesn’t like you, there are hundreds who will be willing to do anything for you. Focus on the people who love and care for you and pamper yourself once in a while. Before you know it, you’ll be already on your way to a new love.