In this world where everyone is masking their sadness, everyone is smiling for the camera and while hiding gruesome episodes of their past, and everyone is putting their best face forward so that you don’t see what horrifying experiences they’ve been through. Mental illnesses still continue to be a stigma and if you try to open up about your feelings, you will be called weak.
But that shouldn’t be the case. Sometimes, it is okay to be sad. It is okay to feel burdened with grief. Instead of focusing on quick methods to get over feelings, one must figure out a way through them. In life, you will find plenty of techniques to temporarily get away from feeling things, but is that the only way? We make our lives more about chasing the little highs and end up repressing so many important feelings.
We’ve been told that sharing our feelings or breaking down is considered as a sign of weakness. So we hide our sadness and put on empty smiles, but for what? I bet as children we were told that being upset or crying is for the losers. That we need to be strong and snap out of it. The memories of our childhood are quite mouldable, but the truth being told, we still continue believing all of it.
There’s no way you can get over it if you don’t let yourself feel those things. Instead of getting over our negative emotions in a healthy manner, we tend to adopt coping mechanisms that we don’t realize will be harming us in the long run. No amount of overcompensation, manipulation, and projection of blame is going to help us face the reality. You’ll only end up hurting yourself and possibly others around you. Eventually, it will hit you harder than ever.
So let yourself feel. Absorb every last of the grief into your body and let it out. Cry until you can cry no more. Accept the situation and tell yourself that there’s no way to escape it. Let your mind and body process the hurt. And that’s when you know you’ve taken it all and you’re ready to move on.
The only way you can completely get over bad experiences is when you have granted yourself the permission to feel it all. You have chosen to stand up even after going through a crippling experience and this choice will shape up who you are today.