It’s an age-old question that can men and women really are just friends and remain in the friend zone without ever crossing the boundaries?
Different people will hold different opinions about the friendship between men and women. True there can be an area of romantic expectations between friends. Often in the advanced stages of friendship, men may try to escape the friend zone and possibly turn from friend to boyfriend but then how far the relationship would go and the if same holds true for most of the friendships piques our curiosity.
The debate centred on men and women is a long one. Some believe that while men and women can be friends, it seems hard for the relationship to be entirely platonic. While both men and women may have very different goals for friendship but it is our genetics which simply drive our attraction to the opposite sex. The chance that at least one party either man or woman is drawn to the other sexually is very high, irrespective of whether or not anything ever comes of it. And because so much friend zone confusion exists between men and women, hardly did ever woman feel secure when her man is close to one of her female friends. This is when jealousy and infidelity come into the picture, after all, we are not wired to be monogamous species.
Men and women can be just friends only if they know when not to cross their boundaries. With some people, there will always be a sensual attraction or you’ll feel infatuated when the person is around, but you don’t always have to lose control over your emotions. You can get a lot other benefits too when you keep a friendship as platonic.
For men and women to be only friends, the woman should dictate the friendship and she has to make sure to keep him at bay. Men are men, after all. If a woman turns weak and is unable to create proper distance barriers limiting the time they spend together and restrict the intimacy they share, the relationship is bound to go too far. Hence women can play a great role in keeping the sweetest friendship intact.
It seems your curiosity has piqued now that how come men and women tend to be just friends. Well, inside men and women often feel they are nothing but friends, but the reality, on the other hand, is that one person’s mind or the other is thinking a bit more. They may never share this information with their friend, but there is always a feeling that one of the days will come when they’re going to get a little tipsy.
The simple rule is that men and women cannot be friends with someone they are attracted to, and unfortunately, most men are always attracted to every other woman so the whole idea of their friendship without thoughts of sex is just ridiculous. Being friends in a group still sounds easier and much more comfortable for most women but if your guy is out with a single female friend, then it’s called a date.
So we now can come to the conclusion that yes men and women can be friends but there are some caveats around it. At some point in time, the man or woman will start expecting more in friendship fantasizing about sex, date or getting into a relationship. If they both can get passed through this sticky phase, then yes a beautiful friendship can be sustained.
Also, friendship comes in many different complexities so it’s important to get clear about what you mean by that word.